Youth Basketball – How You Show Up Matters

The player pulls up for a shot, the ball bounces off the rim, and a defender gets the rebound.  From the sideline the coach yells out “Good try, now let’s get back on defense, get a stop, and get the ball back.”

All of the sudden the coach hears “Coach I need help, I don’t know what to do.”

He turns around to find Rachel standing there, one of the players who was supposed to be sitting on the bench waiting to reenter the game.  She had walked up while he was walking back and forth yelling out encouraging feedback to the group of girls currently on the court.

“What do you mean Rachel?”

“I can’t score.”

“Yes you can, you’ve already made two or three mid range shots today.”

“Yes, but that was before my defender realized I could shoot from that distance.  Now she is closing out on me and I am unable to put up a shot.  What do I do?”

“Put it on the floor and drive in for a lay-up.”

When Rachel didn’t respond and just stood there looking at the coach like she was confused about what she just heard, he said “If the defender closes out on you start dribbling, go around her,  drive towards the basket, and shoot a lay-up.”

After that she looked at the coach like he was crazy, said “ok,” and went back to the bench.

A few minutes letter the whistle blew and both teams made player rotations.

Rachel was back on the court and within a few possessions she got open near the right side of the free throw line and one of her teammates passed her the ball.  She caught the ball, squared herself to the basket, and her defender immediately closed out on her to prevent her from shooting.  Without hesitation Rachel put the ball on the floor, drove past her defender on the right side of the lane, and went in for a lay-up.

After the ball went through the basket the coach starts yelling “Just like that!  Great job Rachel!”

When the next player rotation took place and Rachel came off the court the coach went over to her and said “Great job driving to the basket!  Now each time you get the ball on the offensive end of the court if your defender closes out on you put it on the floor and drive in for a lay-up.  However, if they play off you and the basket is within range shoot.”

Rachel did exactly what the coach said and had a very good game.

After the game was over Rachel walked up to the coach, shook his  hand, and said “Thank You!  I have never driven to the basket before.”

“What do you mean you have never driven to the basket before?”

“I have only been playing organized basketball for a year now.  I was on my 9th grade team last year as a center and sometimes forward.  My responsibilities were to get rebounds and set screens for the guards.”

“You are very good at rebounding, setting screens for the guards does open you up for that nice mid range shot you have, but I think you also have good enough skills handling the ball where you should be looking to drive to the basket more often.  You should use all of your skills and look to grow more.  While playing here at Yes I Can basketball I would like for you to be willing to step out of your comfort zone and work towards building new skills just like you did today.”

“Yes coach, I will do my best.”

Throughout that season Rachel worked very hard on every drill she was put through and always gave a hundred percent.  She was easily one of the hardest working players on the team and it showed because she got better each and every week.

After the league was over that fall she went on to play with her school JV team for the second year in a row.  During the school season her Yes I Can coach stopped by one of her games to see how she was doing.

During their conversation after the game the coach asked her how things were going.

“Pretty good, I am playing well and guess what, the majority of my points are coming from driving to the basket.”

The coach just smiled.

After the school season was over Rachel again participated in a Yes I Can league and worked hard to further grow her skills being a great example for the other girls on her team.

In 11th grade Rachel tried out for and made her school varsity team and at one point was selected to be one of the starters.  A very proud moment for her, her family, and her coach from Yes I Can.

There are so many great lessons to learn from Rachel and what she was able to accomplish.  To have never played organized basketball before the 9th grade, make her school team each year, and be a starter on the varsity team inside two years is pretty impressive.  It was a testament to her hard work, dedication, and willingness to step out of her comfort zone.

To me her story goes to show that you can do anything if you want it bad enough and you are willing to put forth the effort it takes.  It also confirms my belief that –

“It doesn’t matter where you start, it matters where you finish.”

and

“When you show up is important, but not as important as how you show up.”

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Speech Tips – Speech Writing

A lot of people over the years have asked me for advice on writing speeches when they first join Toastmasters.  After I  shared how I prepare speeches with several people, I decided to document the information.  This has made it easier to share the information with others when they ask.

Here is an updated version of some of the information that I have shared on speech writing.

Title–

  • I use a title that reflects the topic.
  • I always try to use one that will peak interest.

Opening –

  • I usually try to open up the speech with something that will get everyone’s
    attention and get them interested in what the speech will be about.
  • I may start off by asking a few questions of the audience, share a short story, or I
    will just make a couple of interesting comments or statements.

Body –

  • I put all the supporting data of the speech in the body.
  • I usually try to have 2 – 4 main talking points.
  • I like to have stories that help support the talking points.

Closing –

  • I usually start off the closing with a brief summary.
  • I then end with a short 2 – 3 sentence statement to really send the message I
    want to share home.

Most of the people I know have different styles of speaking. They also have different themes or sets of topics they usually speak about.

In most of my speeches I try to share a little bit of inspiration and motivation.  I always try to make sure there is a specific take away in each speech that I want the audience to leave with.

You may have a different style and need to figure out what works for you. The goal is for you to find your own voice and share it with others.

I hope this information is useful as you prepare your speeches in the future.

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Leadership Shorts – Visible and Available

Leaders care about their people and want what’s best for them.

When their people are struggling they do whatever they can to try to help provide them relief.  There are situations that are completely out of their control though.  Ones that have been set in motion and will have a negative impact no matter what the leader does.

This can make a leader feel defeated and not want to be around others.   However, this is when leaders need to be visible and available most of all.  Their people need hope and want to believe things will get better.

Being visible and available for their people even if it is to just listen to their concerns and share their thoughts is important.  People want to feel like no matter what happens their leader is right there with them to try to overcome all challenges.

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Leadership Shorts – Lifetime Learner

The world is a big and exciting place filled with a lot to learn and experience.  No one could possibly know everything and things change so fast that there is always something new and worth learning about.

The best leaders are committed to being a lifetime learner.

They recognize and understand that no matter how much they know there is always more to learn.  They are open to learning from every opportunity and experience (positive and negative).

Leaders regularly read worthwhile information, have meaningful conversations with others, and most importantly reflect on their own life.

Remember, each day is an opportunity to learn something new and to be the best leader you can you must be committed to being a lifetime learner.

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Toastmasters

When people first decide to join a Toastmasters club it is usually to work on their public speaking abilities.  What they quickly realize is they also have opportunities to work on a lot more.

There is the opportunity to work on formal speeches, impromptu speeches, listening to others speak, providing feedback (written and verbal), running meetings, time management, telling jokes, and much more.  There  are also opportunities to fill Club Officer roles, having a mentor, and mentoring others.

I personally look at Toastmasters as a way to work on both Communications and Leadership skills.

I have been a member of Toastmasters just over 6 years now and during that time I have had a lot of different roles.  I have been a Sergeant At Arms, Vice President of Education, President, Area Governor, Club Sponsor/Mentor for new clubs, and Mentor for several new and seasoned members.

Since joining Toastmasters I have been in a handful of different clubs.  I continue to be an active member in my original home club “Constructive Speakers Club.”  However, I have also helped to start-up and was a founding member for the “Matthews,” “Microsoft Charlotte,” and Professional Edge (Advanced club)” Toastmasters clubs.   As of right now the only two clubs I am a member of are “Constructive Speakers” and “Professional Edge.”

I personally have gotten a lot from being involved in Toastmasters and I have also tried my best to give back to others when the opportunity has presented itself.  Over  the years I have tried to share my knowledge and experiences with other members through my speeches and by mentoring other members.

To help enable me to share with even more people I have created this blog site.

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Youth Basketball – Courage, Confidence, and Composure at a Young Age

Two weeks ago we wrapped up our Summer Leagues at Yes I Can Basketball.  During the final game of the Girls 8 – 10 Year old League I witnessed an amazing example of Courage, Confidence, and Composure from one of the young players.

Half way through the game I decided to let all of the players take a quick water break.  At the next stoppage in play I blew the whistle and told them to quickly grab some water and be back on the court in one minute.

As the girls ran off the court one of the teams coaches decided to challenge the referees (both accomplished High School varsity Basketball players) to a shooting contest.  He told them to take a shot from anywhere they wanted near the 3 point line on the left side of the court.

Both of the referees took a shot just inside the 3 point line and missed.  The coach then took a shot just outside the 3 point line and made it.  He then offered to give them a second chance.

Around that time Madison (one of the players) had returned from getting water.  She quickly ran to the middle of court just outside the 3 point line and yelled over to the coach to see if she could try.

The coach threw her the ball and without hesitation she caught it, faced the basket, shot the ball, and MADE IT!!!!

Everyone in the gym immediately started cheering and clapping.

I was not surprised that Madison was able to make a 3 point shot because it was something she had been working on before we started our workouts that day and I had seen her make a couple.  So I knew she had the range.

What surprised me was the fact that she stepped up to compete against individuals who were much older and more experienced at basketball, then took the shot and made it without hesitation or appearing nervous even though everyone in the gym was watching.

It’s rare to see such courage, confidence, and composure when put in a pressure situation, especially in a 10-year-old.  It’s even rarer to see it in someone as humble as young Madison.   After making the shot there was no amount of boasting or celebrating.  A matter of fact the only sign of emotion she showed was a huge smile and  bright eyes which she has shown throughout the season when she’s in the gym playing basketball.

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Leadership Shorts – Intention and Purpose

Leaders do things with intention and purpose.  They have a clear vision of the life they want to live; what they want to accomplish, the impact they can make, the person they are capable of being, and are working towards clear goals in order to reach their full potential.

They don’t wait for opportunities to come to them, they seek them out and if need be create them.  At times opportunties will present themselves but usually it is because they have already done the work to be in a situation where they are the right ones for the opportunities.  They also don’t jump on or create just any opportunity.  They only accept the ones that align with their goals.

Living a life of intention and purpose takes vision, discipline, and a lot of hard work.  It is the best way to become the person you were meant to be.

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Leadership Shorts – Values

The best leaders have strong Core Values they choose to live by.

There lies in each and every one of us a core set of personal values.  Ones that are so important that we feel our happiest when they are positively impacted and upset when negatively impacted.  The best leaders have invested the time to identify what their top 3 or 4 values are and live by them.

They are recognizable by the decisions they make, actions they take, and behaviors they display.  Their values are their guiding lights when things get the toughest.  They help them to stay true to themselves and those that follow them.  The greater the leader the firmer they stand behind their values even when there is an extreme pressure placed on them to make a decision or take an action that would go against their values and what they believe.

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Leadership Shorts – Ownership

The best thing a leader can do for someone looking to grow is provide them ownership and the responsibilities of a task or stretch opportunity that will help them obtain the skills they are looking for.

The best way to learn anything is by doing it.

Once the task or stretch opportunity is identified and they agree to take it on let them own it.   Let them know what the end results should be, answer questions, and then step back and let them get to work.

After they get started meet with them when needed, give them any support they require, and provide the appropriate feedback.  Make sure you are not getting too involved though because you need to let them make decisions and drive the results.

This is their time to learn and show you and everyone else what they are capable of.

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Leadership Shorts – Lead, Follow, or Get out of the Way

Lead – Step up and take charge.
Follow – Willingly follow and support others and their ideas.
Get out of the Way – Delegate and step away, allowing someone else to show what they are capable of accomplishing as a leader.

To step up and lead especially when faced with a challenging situation requires courage, to willingly follow someone else when you’re used to leading shows respect and trust in another leader, and to just get out of the way and allow someone else to shine by doing what they are capable of with little to no input from you is a sign of faith in them and their abilities.

To be a truly great leader you have to know when to step up and lead, when to follow someone else, and when to just get out of the way.

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